Oops

I always seem to be making mistakes in my life. I don't heed warning from people close to me. I just seem to take it in one ear and out of the other. They say making the same mistake once is an error, two times is just coincidence and the third is a learning disability.
I have not seemed to find luck in relationships. I seem to pick women that are not completely compatible with my needs. I have chased younger girls in their early 20s and it never seems to work. I have dated older women with children. I almost feel selfish dating them because their attention needs to be focused on their children. I thought playing a substitute father would be easy, it isn't. It seems you almost need to drop everything to cater to their needs. I am not entirely sure what it takes to be a father. I guess I have got a lot of learning to do. Now a relationship with a woman with children is over. How will the relationship with the children go. I know you pretty much break up with the children as well. They wonder if they were a factor in the break-up but I assure you they aren't.
The end of a relationship is difficult for all parties involved, there must be a reasonable attempt to end it on amicable terms. Exactly, what are amicable terms. From all the relationships I have been in during the last couple of years, I have felt like a jerk and on numerous terms been called one.
One thing I have noticed, women seem to ponder deep into my psyche in an attempt to label me or figure me out. I am in the point in my life where I like to have some privacy and mystery to my life. I usually don't want a serious relationship, but it usually heads down that road. I like being free like a bird to explore my horizon but that does not fit into the ideals of most women who are looking for a serious relationship I hate it when the cell phone becomes like a digital leash for your significant other to check up on you. The whole where are you or who are you with comes into play. I guess it is a completely dynamic issue at which different thoughts and opinions arise.
Oops I didn't mean to lead you on, Oops I forgot to tell you what I wanted, I was only catering to your needs while abandoning my own. At times I feel like a geisha enduring the 5 comforts to cater to your needs. What are the 5 comforts, I will tell you:
1) conversation
2) dance
3) music
4) art
5) sexual copulation
Is a relationship healthy when all you become is a "yes man" or a servant to your mate. At first it seems alright but in time it becomes akin to a prison sentence. At this point in time, I will remain single and free till a better offer comes along.